I have been thinking lately about what kind of person I model for my daughter. What unconscious messages am I sending her? Am I complaining all the time and in turn teaching her that “nothing is ever good enough?” Am I giving up too easily when it gets hard and in turn telling her that when the going gets tough it’s ok to just give up?
I lived for a very long time under the shadow of other people. I let others dictate how I acted and how I felt. I was a nice person. I was the “good girl,” but I wasn’t me! After Madison was born, I experienced such a huge shift in my thinking. I realized that I could live the rest of my life exhibiting weakness to my daughter and letting my emotions and other people dictate my actions or I could change. I could begin to live a life that told my daughter not just with words but with my actions as well, that she can do whatever she puts her mind to!
As I have begun to make more and more decision truly from my heart and based on what I feel is right, I have found a new freedom and such joy. I am learning to trust myself and go with my gut. When feelings of self doubt start to creep in and nag me, I refuse to listen because I finally know that I am exactly who I want to be. I make choices from a place of love and peace, so how can I go wrong?
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.
~ e.e. cummings
The message I want my daughter to hear: Be confident, be loving, care about others but never forget to care about yourself. You are worth it! Trust your heart, go with your gut, don’t let anyone make you doubt your self and your intuition. Don’t complain, be positive. Keep on moving forward, even when you think you can’t go any further, I promise you that you can! . Never be afraid to love, you can never love too much. Be crazy because it’s fun, haters will hate but don’t let them ruin your party. Just live, live, live!!!
At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvelously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time.